Thursday, August 12, 2010
Is it all good?
A while back (okay, five years ago -- how times flies) I posted about the magical effect of the phrase "bless his heart." Last week a coworker informed us that she nags her father, but, she added, "it's all good."
"It's all good." Such a breezy statement. Just as it seems you can say anything bad about anyone if you include "bless his heart", you can also confess to any crime and be forgiven as long as you wrap it up with, "it's all good." The Urban Dictionary has this entry for "It's all good":
Platitude that covers so many emotions and situations that it says little; its only real meaning is that the speaker is trying to rise above whatever problem exists, without expressing their underlying negative emotions.Ouch. C'mon, Urban Dictionary, don't hold back.
Anyway, as with "bless his heart," let's see how far we can push this. Let's start with the original inspiration for this post:
I nag my Dad, but it's all good.Okay, she seems to be saying, "it's not like it sounds." She might even be implying (or intending to imply) that her Dad doesn't mind being nagged.
Let's kick it up a notch:
I wrecked my Dad's new car, but it's all good.Okay, we can buy this, too. Maybe Dad is simply grateful that his child wasn't hurt. And who knows? Maybe he was already regretting buying that particular model, and he's relieved that fate took it off his hands.
I got mad at Dad and threw a glass and cut him over the eye, but it's all good.You know, this example begins to show the real power of "it's all good", because it works. "It's all good" is so obdurately positive that it convinces you that, somehow, something positive came out of this incident. It somehow ended well. The world is a better place for this assault and battery.
One final try:
I framed Dad for that armed bank heist that I pulled, and now he's doing twenty-five in the state pen, but it's all good.Doesn't this leave you with a sunny, happy little feeling? It is all good. And, somehow, we are deflected from the question of, for whom?